Bullying happens on the streets of our towns, in our homes, at extracurricular activities, at camp, online, and in many other places. In order for us to accomplish real change kids, parents, school staff, and community leaders must all come together to help find solutions. There are many ways in which you can take action to make change, so that your community is a safe and caring place where kids can thrive. Anti Bullying News
Facts - Over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year. - Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying. - 71% of students report incidents of bullying as a problem at their school. - 90% of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying. - 1 in 10 students drop out of school because of repeated bullying.
Types of Bullying
Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things.
Teasing - Name-calling - Inappropriate sexual comments - Taunting - Threatening to cause harm
Social bullying involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships.
- Leaving someone out on purpose - Telling other children not to be friends with someone - Spreading rumors about someone - Embarrassing someone in public
Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions.
- Hitting/kicking/pinching - Spitting - Tripping/pushing - Taking or breaking someone’s things - Making mean or rude hand gestures
Stop Bullying on the Spot
When adults respond quickly and consistently to bullying behavior they send the message that it is not acceptable. Research shows this can stop bullying behavior over time. There are simple steps adults can take to stop bullying on the spot and keep kids safe.
- Intervene immediately. It is ok to get another adult to help. - Separate the kids involved. - Make sure everyone is safe. - Meet any immediate medical or mental health needs. - Stay calm. Reassure the kids involved, including bystanders. - Model respectful behavior when you intervene.
Avoid these common mistakes:
- Don’t ignore it. Don’t think kids can work it out without adult help. - Don’t immediately try to sort out the facts. - Don’t force other kids to say publicly what they saw.| - Don’t question the children involved in front of other kids. - Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately. - Don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot. Support the Kids Involved
All kids involved in bullying—whether they are bullied, bully others, or see bullying—can be affected. It is important to support all kids involved to make sure the bullying doesn’t continue and effects can be minimized.
Listen and focus on the child. Learn what’s been going on and show you want to help.
Assure the child that bullying is not their fault.
Know that kids who are bullied may struggle with talking about it. Consider referring them to a school counselor, psychologist, or other mental health service.
Give advice about what to do. This may involve role-playing and thinking through how the child might react if the bullying occurs again.
Work together to resolve the situation and protect the bullied child. The child, parents, and school or organization may all have valuable input. It may help to:
- Ask the child being bullied what can be done to make him or her feel safe. Remember that changes to routine should be minimized. He or she is not at fault and should not be singled out. For example, consider rearranging classroom or bus seating plans for everyone. If bigger moves are necessary, such as switching classrooms or bus routes, the child who is bullied should not be forced to change.
- Develop a game plan. Maintain open communication between schools, organizations, and parents. Discuss the steps that are taken and the limitations around what can be done based on policies and laws. Remember, the law does not allow school personnel to discuss discipline, consequences, or services given to other children.
Be persistent. Bullying may not end overnight. Commit to making it stop and consistently support the bullied child.
Avoid these mistakes:
- Never tell the child to ignore the bullying. - Do not blame the child for being bullied. Even if he or she provoked the bullying, no one deserves to be bullied. - Do not tell the child to physically fight back against the kid who is bullying. It could get the child hurt, suspended, or expelled. - Parents should resist the urge to contact the other parents involved. It may make matters worse. School or other officials can act as mediators between parents.
Follow-up. Show a commitment to making bullying stop. Because bullying is behavior that repeats or has the potential to be repeated, it takes consistent effort to ensure that it stops. Address Bullying Behavior
Parents, school staff, and organizations all have a role to play.
Make sure the child knows what the problem behavior is. Young people who bully must learn their behavior is wrong and harms others.
Show kids that bullying is taken seriously. Calmly tell the child that bullying will not be tolerated. Model respectful behavior when addressing the problem.
Work with the child to understand some of the reasons he or she bullied. For example:
- Sometimes children bully to fit in. These kids can benefit from participating in positive activities. Involvement in sports and clubs can enable them to take leadership roles and make friends without feeling the need to bully.
- Other times kids act out because something else—issues at home, abuse, stress—is going on in their lives. They also may have been bullied. These kids may be in need of additional support, such as mental health services.
Involve the kid who bullied in making amends or repairing the situation. The goal is to help them see how their actions affect others. For example, the child can:
- Write a letter apologizing to the student who was bullied. - Do a good deed for the person who was bullied or for others in your community. - Clean up, repair, or pay for any property they damaged.
Follow-up. After the bullying issue is resolved, continue finding ways to help the child who bullied to understand how what they do affects other people. For example, praise acts of kindness or talk about what it means to be a good friend.